Monthly Archives: August 2014

10 Things Teens Won’t Tell You

Whether you are a parent, grandparent, youth worker, youth pastor, or just a curious observer of the cultural shifts in America, this article provides incredible insight into the mind of the teenager, or more importantly the next generation in America. It is interesting the article comes from a financial mindset (, thus it uses the numbers to explain behavior. Tough to argue with that logic. Take a look at the article, and feel free to comment about it below.


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8 Ways Christians Should Handle Homosexuality

In a message at a teen leadership conference, the speaker brought up a good point.  Oftentimes, Christian mishandle the topic of homosexuality and cause more harm than good.  While there is certainly disagreements in lifestyle and behavior, there are things Christians can do differently and better to show we love others, specifically those in the homosexual community.  Here are a few ways we can be more consistent, loving, and Christ-like.


  1. Handle sin the same – don’t ignore less or more popular sins
  2. Don’t expect people who don’t follow Christ to obey the Bible
  3. Carefully choose the way you protest
  4. Remember it’s more important to make a difference than a point (Don’t crush others to make yourself feel better)
  5. How you say what you say, is as important as what you say
  6. Don’t fear sharing what you believe – Remember the argument is not with the Bible, but with the writer of it
  7. Treat those with whom you disagree with love
  8. Be willing to live with the consequences of speaking the truth in love

(Taken from a message by David Whiting, Teen Leadership Conference at Baptist Bible College, July 2014)


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Double Book Review: “The Meaning of Marriage” & “Is God Anti-Gay”

Book Review: The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Kellertim_keller

Side note: I try to read at least one marriage/husband book per year. If you decide to this, this book would be a great place to start.

The Good:

Have a Good Pen Ready. I found out really quickly I needed to make sure my pen had plenty of ink, because I was underlining like a college freshman in their first class. This was like going through pre-marital counseling, a seminary class on marriage, and a sermon series on the family all rolled up in one. So my first advice to you is to have your pen, locked and loaded.

If you’re married, make room on your shelf. Packed with enjoyable and impactful personal stories and real life examples, this book provides superior insight to the marriage relationship. Additionally, this quite possibly may have the best Biblical support of any marriage book I have read, just incredible Biblical foundation.

College/Young Adults…Peep This! Chapter 7 is an absolute gold mine for college/young adults and anyone that is ministering or counseling this particular age. This chapter is worth the price of admission. Singles as well, you will want to read this chapter.

Spoiler Alert. Not to ruin the book for you, but the principles are life-changing. For example: Marriage should bring glory to God, if not you are doing something wrong. Or here’s another example: You will not be marriage to the “same person” forever – if you are doing marriage right you each will inspire each other to change more like Jesus Christ. GOOD STUFF!

The Bad:

Wordy.  My only complaint was there were a few occasion of wordiness, and could have been more succinct. But even this comment is being a little nit-picky.

The Grade: A.

This may be the best marriage book I have ever read. The combination of Biblical foundation and timeless life principles is difficult to beat. This is well worth the read for anyone preparing for or in marriage.


Book Review: Is God Anti-Gay by Sam Allberry

The Good:

It’s all about perspective. The author admits to struggling with same-sex attraction. Therefore, the perspective is what makes this book superior. Christian authors can attempt to write these words, but from the pen of someone who experiences the struggles, the weight of the words increase dramatically.  There was truly a balance here. These were determinations and principles that the author truly had to experience and fully believe. Otherwise, it would be a practicing homosexual writing these words, not one who struggles with same-sex attraction. Therefore, the author provides great insight in a balanced approach to the treatment of the gay community and the homosexuality subject in general.

New Insight. Some of the Biblical perspective and groundwork were incredibly enlightening. In fact, there were times where I thought to myself, I never even thought of that, and it makes total sense. The depth from the combination of a Biblical scholar who struggles with same-sex attraction was a lethal combo, in the sense of providing spiritual depth along with a human touch.

Great Ending. Don’t you hate it when you watch a movie that is good all the way up to the end, and it just ruins everything? This book is nothing like that. The ending, especially the words penned on page 83 are worth the price of the book one hundred fold.

The Bad:

One piece missing. It is a short book, so there could always be more you could add. However, one piece that seems to be missing is the interaction with culture. This book dealt more with friends or those attending church, what about engaging culture?   Chapter 5 just needed to be a little longer.

The Grade: A-

Everyone I’ve talked to said this is a must read on the topic of homosexuality. As I said before, this book is written by a man who has dealt with this issue in their own life, and comes to the table with elements that have come out his own personal journey. He truly had to believe what he writes, because it affects his life choices. Additionally, the depth of spiritual insight on the subject was eye-opening. Worth the quick read.


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10 Things I Learned After Having Daughters

  1. Chevron is not just a gas station.
  2. Mood changes can happen in a split second. A laugh can turn into a cry in a drop of a toy.
  3. No matter the time, place, or activity…a girl can quickly pose for a picture.
  4. Clothes. Clothes.  And Clothes.  Um, and then more clothes.
  5. I think God installed tear ducts a little looser in little girls.
  6. Craft time is essential to life.
  7. You don’t have to worry how they are doing sleeping, because they will visit your bed regularly throughout the night.
  8. People keep telling me “just wait until they are teenagers”. Sounds good, I think I’ll wait.
  9. They like those Barbie movies. If you have watched them, you wish with all of your being that this was not true.
  10. It’s rare that a hug is not available when you need one.

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(Picture Courtesy of KariMe Photography)

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