It Takes Two. Probably my favorite aspect of the book is each chapter provides two perspectives: the pastor and the pastor’s wife. This did two things. First, as a pastor it provided encouragement, challenge, and practical training for the years ahead. Second, it provided a whole new perspective of what the wife feels, deals with, and the challenges they face. It allows the reader to come away more sensitive to the other spouse and a willingness to see the other side of situations.
Big Eye Emoji. I was shocked. Maybe I need to be a better student of church history, but I had no idea of the struggles some of the greatest preachers in history had in their family life. Marital struggles, parenting regrets, and family difficulty…how was I so naive. If these fellas struggled, I need to be even more on guard and fight for my marriage, my family, my children.
Heart to Heart. At the end of each chapter, it allows the husband and wife to ask questions. Each of these questions were well thought out and are valuable to a ministry marriage. Put these into practice and allow it to be life-changing material rather than just head knowledge.
For Real. This is stretching it, but for someone early in ministry there needs to be a warning here. This book is real and honest. It speaks of difficulties, depression, struggles…just make sure you are ready to read this. It acts as a warning, and an important one, but prepare yourself if you are just entering ministry or have a young marriage/family.
The Grade: A. Those in ministry need to read this book. It won’t take you long, but it will have great impact. It’s highly practical, challenging, and encouraging along the way. It’s like a pastoral mentor and his wife taking you by the hand and leading you through the next years of your marriage and parenting. The value goes beyond the price of the book. Without a godly family, how will you have a godly ministry. Sometimes we get things backwards…this book will help put you back on track.
Extra Credit: Read the reflection article on pages 107-109. It is dynamite.