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Book Review: “What Every Man Wishes His Father Had Told Him” by Byron Yawn

Book Review: What Every Man Wishes His Father Had Told Him by Byron Yawn51pc3yNJ2uL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_

The Good:

One Liner After One Liner. Goodness, I have never read a book that had so many one-liners that hit you right between the eyes, especially as a dad. So much so, you had to really take your time through some paragraphs because were so full of sentences dripping with truth and power.

Like a Modern Day Proverbs. The wisdom this book provides for sons and Fathers of sons is priceless. It will provide healing, wisdom, instruction, and parenting guidance. It reminds me of the book Solomon wrote for his son…while it certainly does not have the power of God’s Word, it still draws from Biblical principles for the next generation of men.

Counseling Gold. Countless times I wrote in the margin of this book “counseling illustration” or “use in counseling”. As a young father, I need all the wisdom I can get in parenting my own children, let alone counseling other fathers. This will help.

Humor Like a Desert. Just how I like it. I love dry humor, and this book was full of it. It was well-placed, and allowed the read to be more enjoyable. At times, it kept me coming back for more.

Miscellaneous Reasons for Purchase. #1 – Man Laws. #2 – Chapter on Sexual Purity. #3 – Chapter 18 will grip your heart and will have an incredible effect on the reader (if not, check your pulse).

The Bad:

Redundancy. There was some redundancy of literary style at times. Hard to explain, but sometimes slowed the flow of the read. The repetitiveness in style often cause the writer to say the same thing in different ways in the same paragraph.

Too Dogmatic? I put a question mark here because it wasn’t something that caused me to struggle in my doctrinal view of the book. However, there were some very strong statements that may cause you to slightly raise an eyebrow, but not get bent out of shape.

Take the Gospel, and Call me in the morning. This seems like this is happening more and more in our Christian culture where we simply say the solution is the Gospel. While it probably is true, I need more than just the word, but an explanation. There were times in the book where it had the former without the latter.

The Grade: A

I just finished the book a few days ago, and have already recommended it to a Men’s Bible study group, a parent of a teen, and put it in my planner to recommend at my next big parents meeting. This book comes strongly recommended from one dad to another. With my little boy coming any day now, I needed this, and your son wants you to read this book too.

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10 Things I Learned After Having Daughters

  1. Chevron is not just a gas station.
  2. Mood changes can happen in a split second. A laugh can turn into a cry in a drop of a toy.
  3. No matter the time, place, or activity…a girl can quickly pose for a picture.
  4. Clothes. Clothes.  And Clothes.  Um, and then more clothes.
  5. I think God installed tear ducts a little looser in little girls.
  6. Craft time is essential to life.
  7. You don’t have to worry how they are doing sleeping, because they will visit your bed regularly throughout the night.
  8. People keep telling me “just wait until they are teenagers”. Sounds good, I think I’ll wait.
  9. They like those Barbie movies. If you have watched them, you wish with all of your being that this was not true.
  10. It’s rare that a hug is not available when you need one.

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(Picture Courtesy of KariMe Photography)

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3 Ways to be a Bold Father

Being a father is not easy.  It is a tough task that takes time, patience, energy, love, and a tremendous amount of help from the ultimate example of Fatherhood, our Heavenly Father.  When thinking of a picture of a good father, another word that comes to mind is boldness.  Men, it’s time we be bold fathers.

Here are 3 ways to be a Bold Father (applications from the story of Elijah vs. the Baal Prophets in I Kings 18)

1.  Bold in the Fight Against Evil – “Don’t Compromise”boldness

Don’t compromise to appease the moment. That’s not bold, that taking the easy way out. Stand for righteousness. Even though you know you will get groans when you turn the TV off when the show turns from funny to raunchy. Even though you will get backlash from saying no to purchasing the new video game, because you know what mature rating could mean. Even though you might hear stomping up the stairs when you tell your daughter to go change again because it doesn’t meet the standards of modesty.

Take a stand for godliness, for holiness, for righteousness. Take a stand against evil.

2.  Bold in Witness – “Don’t Baal Them Out”

You can’t “Baal them out”. Listen, there will be times when you know the right answer, you told them how it will end if they continue like this, but they simply disobeyed, ignored, and did it anyways.Don’t “Baal them out”. Suffering the consequences is something that will be their only teacher at times.

We live in a culture that everyone gets a trophy and you can’t grade in red pen anymore because it may damage a 1st graders psyche… our kids, in their disobedience and rebellion need to face consequences…don’t Baal them out.

3.  Bold in Humility – “How can I Serve You?”parenting

Dads, do you serve your family? Before you answer a quick yes – by saying you “work hard everyday to pay the bills and put a roof over your head and this is the thanks I get…” Oops, sorry, that was a speech I was saving for when my kids are teenagers.

Serving your family is more than just going to work everyday, although that is a very good start for a father.I’m talking about, do you serve your family?

Do you sacrifice purchases for yourself to give to your family? Do you give time, even when you have very little to give? Do you find joy in your kid’s joy or do I hear a “you know when I was your age speech a-coming…

Do you give to your kids special times like vacations or daddy dates? Or do you find yourself complaining more about how much this is costing you?

Do you lead in humility? Or as the leader, you just are leading yourself to your happiness?

Do you sacrifice, serve, and lead your family in humility?

 

You see men, being bold is more than being willing to fight a lion. It is being willing to sit down by the little lambs and talk about what is in their heart. Being bold is more than just climbing a mountain with little air supply, it is being willing to work through problems step by step until you reached the peak. Being bold is more than just standing out in the crowd, it is being willing to stand by your wife in good times & bad, stand by your kids when the love you give does not equal the love you receive, and stand by your God when your culture is telling Him to take a seat.

 

 

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Book Review: The 21 Day Dad’s Challenge

Book Review:  The 21 Day Dad’s Challenge by Carey Casey

21-day-main-image.ashxThe Good:  It was refreshing to have a new author for each challenge, bringing a new perspective on what is important in fatherhood.  Each unique look provided a new challenge, from a different angle and background.  Honestly, that kept me going in the challenge, knowing there was a new author’s perspective around the corner.  The book does a good job of balancing Scripture with the principles laid out.  Also, the homework at the end of each chapter was very helpful, and allowed for the reader to have the proper takeaway for each chapter.  Finally, it was doable.  The challenge took about 15-20 minutes each night to both read and complete the homework.

The Bad:  Some of what I am going to say seems unfair, but here it is.  The multiple authors resulted in some repeating of information.  I know it’s not their fault, please stop yelling at me.  Also, it did not cater for the ages of my kids (very young) as well as I thought it might.  I had trouble with some of the homework assignments as a result of the ages of my kids.  Again, not the book’s fault.  Told you it was unfair.

Grade:  A-

Listen all you dads out there, I think you can spare 15 minutes a day to read a chapter of this book.  It is worth your time to do that in a 21 day period.  Challenge yourself to be a better dad.  This country is starving for some male leadership in the home, and you should be eagerly looking for books like this to challenge yourself and make you a better dad.  Do it for your kids.  Do it for the Lord.  And do it for your grandchildren that will have your children as parents.  This decision to read this book could affect many generations…not many books you could describe that way, huh?  So go take the challenge.

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