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3 Ways to Be a Better Father

Following Father’s Day, it is important to reflect and re-energize ourselves into being better and more godly fathers.  Here are three ways we can do just that…Presentation1

Focus on the Unseen

Dads – we like simple instructions. Here is one, if you can see it then it is temporary, but eternal things are unseen. Each day we get older and closer to eternity…but don’t wait until then to focus on the eternal. When your kids look through what you leave them – they may find sports jerseys, tools, or a coin collection. But what your kids really need you to leave them – faith lessons, integrity & leadership example, path to purity, and the way to Jesus Christ as their Savior.

Remember What Matters

As you sit around the dinner table today – it is a blessing to have your kids sitting there, but it is a much more significant blessing to have your kids sitting at God’s table one day. Your kids will not remember the cost of going out for ice cream – but they may recall the lesson of forgiveness they learned while eating it. Your kids will probably never know the amount of your rent or mortgage payment – but they will recall the prayers by their bedside in their room. Your kids often have no idea how tired you are, but your faith and confidence in God’s plan will help them rest. You get the point? Remember what matters.

Point Them to Jesus

Dads – you can’t be there all the time. But you can point them towards something that can be – their relationship with their Lord & Savior. Your example can point them to Jesus. When they see your life as a picture of grace, forgiveness, trust, mercy, & unconditional love…that becomes a life that points to Jesus. You are showing your kids where the true treasures are. Financial stability, comfortable living conditions, good education are all good things…but those things will fade away…point your kids toward Jesus, an eternal inheritance, a life following God & His Word. Teach them a life given to Jesus a being a good steward of what God gave them…and it is the best life, the life that holds the most joy, and the life that will one day experience eternity as a child of God.

Finally, the best thing to do as a father: Introduce your kids to the Heavenly Father.

Taken from the Father’s Day Sermon called “Good Steward Parenting”

 

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Book Review: “What Every Man Wishes His Father Had Told Him” by Byron Yawn

Book Review: What Every Man Wishes His Father Had Told Him by Byron Yawn51pc3yNJ2uL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_

The Good:

One Liner After One Liner. Goodness, I have never read a book that had so many one-liners that hit you right between the eyes, especially as a dad. So much so, you had to really take your time through some paragraphs because were so full of sentences dripping with truth and power.

Like a Modern Day Proverbs. The wisdom this book provides for sons and Fathers of sons is priceless. It will provide healing, wisdom, instruction, and parenting guidance. It reminds me of the book Solomon wrote for his son…while it certainly does not have the power of God’s Word, it still draws from Biblical principles for the next generation of men.

Counseling Gold. Countless times I wrote in the margin of this book “counseling illustration” or “use in counseling”. As a young father, I need all the wisdom I can get in parenting my own children, let alone counseling other fathers. This will help.

Humor Like a Desert. Just how I like it. I love dry humor, and this book was full of it. It was well-placed, and allowed the read to be more enjoyable. At times, it kept me coming back for more.

Miscellaneous Reasons for Purchase. #1 – Man Laws. #2 – Chapter on Sexual Purity. #3 – Chapter 18 will grip your heart and will have an incredible effect on the reader (if not, check your pulse).

The Bad:

Redundancy. There was some redundancy of literary style at times. Hard to explain, but sometimes slowed the flow of the read. The repetitiveness in style often cause the writer to say the same thing in different ways in the same paragraph.

Too Dogmatic? I put a question mark here because it wasn’t something that caused me to struggle in my doctrinal view of the book. However, there were some very strong statements that may cause you to slightly raise an eyebrow, but not get bent out of shape.

Take the Gospel, and Call me in the morning. This seems like this is happening more and more in our Christian culture where we simply say the solution is the Gospel. While it probably is true, I need more than just the word, but an explanation. There were times in the book where it had the former without the latter.

The Grade: A

I just finished the book a few days ago, and have already recommended it to a Men’s Bible study group, a parent of a teen, and put it in my planner to recommend at my next big parents meeting. This book comes strongly recommended from one dad to another. With my little boy coming any day now, I needed this, and your son wants you to read this book too.

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3 Ways to be a Bold Father

Being a father is not easy.  It is a tough task that takes time, patience, energy, love, and a tremendous amount of help from the ultimate example of Fatherhood, our Heavenly Father.  When thinking of a picture of a good father, another word that comes to mind is boldness.  Men, it’s time we be bold fathers.

Here are 3 ways to be a Bold Father (applications from the story of Elijah vs. the Baal Prophets in I Kings 18)

1.  Bold in the Fight Against Evil – “Don’t Compromise”boldness

Don’t compromise to appease the moment. That’s not bold, that taking the easy way out. Stand for righteousness. Even though you know you will get groans when you turn the TV off when the show turns from funny to raunchy. Even though you will get backlash from saying no to purchasing the new video game, because you know what mature rating could mean. Even though you might hear stomping up the stairs when you tell your daughter to go change again because it doesn’t meet the standards of modesty.

Take a stand for godliness, for holiness, for righteousness. Take a stand against evil.

2.  Bold in Witness – “Don’t Baal Them Out”

You can’t “Baal them out”. Listen, there will be times when you know the right answer, you told them how it will end if they continue like this, but they simply disobeyed, ignored, and did it anyways.Don’t “Baal them out”. Suffering the consequences is something that will be their only teacher at times.

We live in a culture that everyone gets a trophy and you can’t grade in red pen anymore because it may damage a 1st graders psyche… our kids, in their disobedience and rebellion need to face consequences…don’t Baal them out.

3.  Bold in Humility – “How can I Serve You?”parenting

Dads, do you serve your family? Before you answer a quick yes – by saying you “work hard everyday to pay the bills and put a roof over your head and this is the thanks I get…” Oops, sorry, that was a speech I was saving for when my kids are teenagers.

Serving your family is more than just going to work everyday, although that is a very good start for a father.I’m talking about, do you serve your family?

Do you sacrifice purchases for yourself to give to your family? Do you give time, even when you have very little to give? Do you find joy in your kid’s joy or do I hear a “you know when I was your age speech a-coming…

Do you give to your kids special times like vacations or daddy dates? Or do you find yourself complaining more about how much this is costing you?

Do you lead in humility? Or as the leader, you just are leading yourself to your happiness?

Do you sacrifice, serve, and lead your family in humility?

 

You see men, being bold is more than being willing to fight a lion. It is being willing to sit down by the little lambs and talk about what is in their heart. Being bold is more than just climbing a mountain with little air supply, it is being willing to work through problems step by step until you reached the peak. Being bold is more than just standing out in the crowd, it is being willing to stand by your wife in good times & bad, stand by your kids when the love you give does not equal the love you receive, and stand by your God when your culture is telling Him to take a seat.

 

 

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