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Book Review: What Did You Expect?

Book Review:  What Did You Expect? By Paul Tripp

The Good: 

Goal of Marriage.  It won’t take you long before you realize this isn’t just a marriage tips book.  If you want that, check out the grocery magazine stand or peruse the self-help books at Barnes & Noble.  Here, you find a spiritual awakening to your marriage.  You get a theological education of where God wants to take your marriage, and where God wants to take YOU in your marriage.  That’s what makes this a worthwhile read.

A Mirror to Your Soul.  If you are not ready to dive deep into your heart, then you better not click “Add to cart” on Amazon.  But, if you are ready to get to the heart of the problem, issue, or struggles of your marriage, then buckle up…this book will take you there.  I’ve never thought I had a bad marriage, but is that what I want?  “Not a bad marriage”.  For a great marriage, I MUST work at my marriage, and even more so, work on MYSELF in my relationship with God.

Can you give me an example?  I love a good story.  And when the stories of real marriage examples weave in and out of the chapter contents, it makes for a much more enjoyable read.  If the whole book was principles and practical tips, it still would be a valuable book.  But, with the real life examples of marital difficulty and victory, the reader gets the best of both worlds.

The Bad:

Verbose.  This was a BOOK.  Nearly 300 pages worth made it for a very long, but important read.  While all the material is valuable, I typically feel like it can be condensed when it gets to that thickness.  If I drop the book on my foot and it hurts, it’s too much and time to sum up.

The Grade:  B+

The length was the only downside to the book.  Tripp is one of my favorites.  Man, he is able to take theological concepts and apply them to everyday life-like no other.  Challenging principles from Scripture that get to the heart of the husband and wife, rather than surface marriage tips that only gloss over the real problems and issues.  If the self-help books are a band-aid, this here book is major heart surgery.  And if I’m your marriage doctor, I would be prescribing you this book to read 2 chapters and call me in the morning.

 

 

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Book Review: Date Your Wife

Book Review:  Date Your Wife by Justin Buzzard

The Good: 

Younger Author.  No offense to the many marriage book authors I’ve read in the past, but they were typically old dudes.  While I certainly am not discounting the wisdom that comes with age & experience, I appreciated a marriage book by someone who was in the same life stage as myself.  Someone with young kids and a younger marriage.  As a result, I was glued to the author’s words as I was often living out similar experiences, trials, and victories.

Let’s Chat.  Easily was the best conversationally friendly book I had read on marriage.  There were great talking points throughout the book.  While some chapters lacked some depth, it made up for it immediately with the practicality and ability to transition the material into a conversation with your wife.

Short Chapters.  For a slow reader like myself who sneaks in a few pages here and there, the chapter length was a blessing.  It actually encouraged me to read more as I felt like I was progressing.  Sometimes the 30 page chapters are intimidating can be like trying to swallow the whole pizza, rather than having small chapters to take many small bites or slices.

The Bad:

Mr. Repeat.  The author tends to repeat himself.  The author tends to repeat himself.  Ok, I’ll stop.  It was a little annoying at the beginning, but it seemed there was purpose to the repetition.  When I was about halfway through the book, I was able to share with my wife all I had learned, and the concepts and lessons came-a-flowing out of my mouth.  Why?  Could be because of the repetition.

The Grade:  A-

There was a considerable amount of lessons and insight to appreciate from this book.  The application of Adam & Eve to current marriage was especially appreciated.  Justin Buzzard is tremendously creative in his pursuit of his wife, and the creativity spills out onto the pages.  I’m more excited about the days ahead of my marriage than I was before the book.  Even after finishing the book, I feel like the journey has just begun with the principles and ideas I gained from reading “Date Your Wife”.  A read I would put on every husband’s shelf.

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Book Review: The Mingling of Souls by Matt Chandler #MinglingOfSouls

Book Review: The Mingling of Souls by Matt Chandler

The Good:

Attention all teenagers/young adults/parents of teens & young adults/etc etc. Tell all teenagers and young adults to read the 1st three chapters of this book right now! No seriously, get them out of school/wake them up/take them from work and leave them in a park somewhere and tell them to read the 1st three chapters of this book and discuss it with you. In these three chapters are priceless advice for anyone that is pre-marriage.

Bible-based. The problem with many marriage books is the source of the advice. Sure, psychologists and marriage counselors have wisdom to share, but they pale in comparison to the Word of God. This book guides the reader through the Song of Solomon and draws advice from the wisest man to ever live who, by the way, was inspired by the Holy Spirit. Check please.331639

A Must for Marriage Counselors & Pastors. This book is perfect for any number of scenarios. Whether you want to improve in marriage counseling, or you are a pastor formulating your wedding ceremony template, or you just want to help improve your marriage or a friend’s…this book is for you.

A Challenge From The Start. Let’s be honest, some books tend to trail off like a cell phone in the mountains. Not this book. A blow-by-blow heavyweight fight from start to finish, with challenges for those not married, newly married, and long-married (long-married…is that a word?).

Conflict Resolution. Chandler does not dance around this subject, because in marriage there will be conflict. This chapter is pure gold. Rather than just provide advice for husbands, this book provides great balance between the sexes in dealing with conflict. In fact, the entire book is very well-balanced for both spouses in not just conflict, but all areas of marriage.

The Bad:

A Warning. Chapter five is not for young readers. This chapter is designed for engaged/married couples, but still has value in understanding the true purpose of sexual intimacy designed by God. In this chapter, younger readers will still find valuable warnings of how the world has distorted sex.

Too Much Gospel? This is hard to say. We need to preach the Gospel to ourselves in everything we do, including marriage. But, I felt at times, the Gospel was used almost too often and brought some confusion. Almost like, sprinkle a little Gospel on it and it will taste better. At times, could have used more explanation. I understand the intent and I hesitated to even mention it, but felt I needed to be honest.

The Grade: A+

This book is real, honest, but never lets up on the pursuit of a marriage how God intended it to be. It takes the reader on an enjoyable ride through the twists and turns of marriage, but slow enough to provide valuable insight and advice from the Word of God that is attainable, useful, and life-changing. Chandler uses transparency and real-life examples to illustrate lessons learned the hard way. This book should be the next read for anyone reaching for the ultimate joy in marriage. (Hint: It’s not you or your spouse).

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Book Review: “You and Me Forever” by Francis & Lisa Chan

Book Review: You and Me Forever, by Francis & Lisa ChanB1IKi3KCAAARclh.jpg large

The Good:

When We Gonna Talk About Marriage. This book is heavily focused on the reader’s relationship with God. And why not? This is the relationship that will last into eternity, not your marriage relationship. So the journey Chan takes you is bigger than just man and wife, and that is what makes this book unique and powerful.

Radical Call to Marriage. This is no ordinary marriage book, it is radical. It is a call to live your marriage entirely different. What makes it so credible, is the author and his wife lived what was written in this book. Otherwise, it would be a “you should” book. Instead, it is a “we did, and look what happened” book.

Ready for a Challenge? If you don’t want to be challenged, then don’t read this book. If you do…buckle up! The book is full of challenging thoughts and one-liners that smack you around.   The chapter on mission specifically will provide a great challenge.

Parenting Chapter. The parenting chapter alone is worth the price of admission. If you don’t have the time to read everything, read that chapter, and then if you can go back to the beginning and dive in. It is worth the swim.

The Bad:

Came for a Hamburger, and Got a Steak. Listen, if you open this book expecting a book full of relationship advice, you’re barking up the wrong tree. So don’t waste your time here. This book goes on a much deeper spiritual level and forces you to reevaluate your marriage. This is the closest thing I can come up with in terms of bad.

The Grade: A

I’m a little bias, sure. Crazy Love was the one of the first books that produced in me spiritual life change, outside of the Bible. Before that, reading was the furthest thing from my desk or leisure activity. When I realized I could read, and my life habits and disciplines could change as a result, I was sold. And it just happened to be Crazy Love was the first book I experienced that life change.

That being said, this book provides a unique look on marriage. It goes outside the girls are from Pluto, boys are from Saturn type relationship advice. It goes much deeper. For those that have a relationship with God and are married, this book provides a way for those two relationships to not only co-exist, but to thrive and grow into the relationships that are God-designed…how they are supposed to be.

Want more than just marital advice? Want to live life as a couple with a mission that is directed by God and has eternal effects? Want more than just a happy marriage? Pick up this book.

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